Okay anyone who has struggled with trying to lose weight and being unsuccessful understands that mind thoughts are the biggest obstacle. This is always the case when eating to make yourself feel better no matter why you need to feel better. Controlling mind thoughts will give you a power you somehow lost along your journey. Stay with me until the end to redevelop those healthy thoughts that will keep you on track.
In my case, emotional eating makes me feel satisfied when something in my life is not giving me that sense of satisfaction. Or when I feel out of control. For example, it could be that I’m feeling overwhelmed with taking care of chores around the house, or demanding deadlines that suddenly pop up at work. Pretty much a constant tug of war in my head. It takes much self talk, but I have accomplished kicking negative or “must eat” thoughts out of my head.
That’s not to say that I don’t still struggle with them, I do. I compare it to much the same type of addictive thoughts a drug or alcohol dependent person must have. It is constant, and sometimes, I don’t win.
I want to help you as much as I want to help myself with this post. My hope is to write down my philosophy so I can refer to it as a way to expunge those thoughts out of my head when temptation is rampant. I hope that it will work the same for you.
Now a little about behavior.
How to Use the Subconscious Mind
It’s simple – the path to being healthy and fit begins in the mind. Our actions and behaviors are a product of what we think and feel. So if we want to change our actions and behavior we need to change our thoughts and our feelings. Make sense?
What we believe and the habits we have been all stored in the subconscious mind. We have been molded in how we think about ourselves and food since our earliest days. If you have been programmed with a low self-esteem you’re likely to have struggles that may include controlling food intake.
Yes this will take some work on your part, but I guarantee you the benefit of practicing this will far, far out weight the time and effort it takes you to do it.
It started as a feeling you had.
Controlling Mind Thoughts
Dissatisfaction, shame, blame. I’m not sure we fully understand how our words affect others especially our children. We often have bad days, feel bad about ourselves for something and unknowingly don’t understand how our actions based on a bad feeling we’re experiencing affects children and how they feel about themselves. Ouch, I feel really sick in the pit of my stomach – realizing a few things I’ve said and done from my negative self feelings to make others feel really bad about themselves.
This does not mean it is only parents affecting children. Think about your own life and growing up. How did classmates make you feel at certain times? Kids can act terrible toward other kids amplifying, creating or attributing to negative thoughts. If we don’t have the guidance to help us work through some of those things that happen to us as kids we can and often are affected for life.
Then we suddenly wake up one day and we’re adults. The seeds were planted with negative thoughts. Now let’s add in stresses that life throws at you and boom you’ve got the cocktail mix of blame, shame, dissatisfaction and other negative feeling culminating into those ever so nasty and intrusive thoughts that play through our minds whenever those familiar feelings are around.
How do we get those thoughts out of our minds?
Clear Your Mind Thoughts
Here’s where the work comes in.
You have to start paying attention to your feeling and thoughts that get you into the dilemma.
Step 1: Start identifying the feelings and thoughts. We need to become self-aware, or more self-aware, to conquer identifying these negative feelings and thoughts that come from those emotions.
Step 2: Distract your Mind. What is your most favorite thing to do at this time in your life. Do you like to hike? What was your favorite hike? Or Biking, or boating, or fishing? Maybe it’s kids. What’s the best memory of your kids that brings you joy?
I’ll share one of mine. When my daughter was still young enough to take a bottle, I remember I always put her baby hair in a ponytail in the middle of her head. She would hold her bottle in one hand, and twirl her ponytail with her other hand. One specific memory I have of her doing that, I was sitting in an arm chair holding her in our living room. While she had her bottle and twirled her hair I burned into my memory how her blue eyes looked directly and deeply into my eyes. I can remember thinking I will never forget this moment. And I haven’t. Heck I’m getting teary now typing it for your to read and she’s nineteen now!
If you have children and can relate in any way to my memory, I’m guessing you became just as involved in my story as I was. So I’ve proven to you how you can distract yourself, and it wasn’t even your memory!! Think of how powerful your own memories will distract your mind and clear those negative thoughts away.
Works like a charm. The difficult part is recognizing when you need to distract your thinking so you can dismiss the ugly thoughts.
Thoughts for Motivation
Distraction is absolutely a successful way to transform your thoughts. However, there are time when we need some encouraging thoughts to continue on our weight loss path.
Here are a few that I read to help me stay positive. I do this after I use the distraction method. Once my mind is distracted with a positive memory positive feelings have taken over and my mind is more inclined to benefit from reading encouraging words. On very challenging days, I read these many times!
- The past can not be changed. The future is yet in your power.
- Change your life today.
- Only I can change my life.
- Slow and stead wins the race.
- If you are tired of starting over, stop giving up.
This has been my successful weight loss plan. I haven’t always been perfect. As a matter of fact I’ve done some back sliding just recently, but I’m ready to get back on track. You can do this too!
Good Luck and leave me a comment below on your thoughts and how you progress to defeat them.